I just answered https://islam.stackexchange.com/q/21751/17163 , and it struck me as likely that Sufis might have a different interpretation of anger and a different approach to coping with anger, perhaps more spiritual than other Muslims. Googling sufi anger gives two references: - Sufi University : He says that if you’re angry, then you do the Sufi practice of tawbah and return to divine love now. The tawbah practice can be used to bypass by the past and the 'root' of the problem. - Sufispirit.com.au : When a person gets angry, this is a form of pride. They are saying, 'I am better than you'. So it seems likely that there's a different attitude in Sufism to anger. However, I don't know how reliable/accurate these references are among Sufis. **Question**: What is the Sufi interpretation and method to control anger?

This is not about me but my someone that I knew from before, we were young then and he said something like would do some thing even if it meant angering Allah. I am curious, was this a sin, to be okay and not wish but want to anger Allah.

I divorced my wife while walking with her in the street. She said something distasteful to me. My anger escalated, she didn't also try and calm me down, by explaining herself. This angered me more and I tried calming myself and refraining from saying things that I did not want , but the anger got the better of me and made me utter talaq to her. Can you provide an answer that I can pass onto her as she is curious to the answers. I've got no local imam to assist in this matter. If a call can be done with the both of us. Shukran

Asalamu-alaikum, I feel embarrassed and guilty for asking this question but Allah Almighty knows what is in my heart.. I started praying very recently, I'm 23 years old. I got inspired by my father who was making big mistakes in his life and Alhamdulillah he is now a man of God and started praying more, which inspired me to do the same. I am not perfect with my prayers, but I do try. Last night was the first time in my life to offer Qiyam Al-Layl, and I also fasted today since it's Thursday. After maghrib, I got into a huge fight with my mother and I went crazy almost as if shaytaan entered my body. I was angry, full of hate, pain, and could not control my actions. It is the first time I have ever done such a thing. To be fair, my mother has been causing me much pain over the years. It is not her intention to do so, but I pray Allah gives her guidance. It is fair to say it has been anger built up over the years. However, today has severely damaged our relationship. Why is it when I strive to be a better Muslim, it's harder for me to continue? I cannot pray Isha because I am afraid. Astaghfurallah. Every time I pray, I get a very bad outcome almost immediately. Please brothers and sisters, offer me guidance. I don't want to lose faith. God bless you all

Is it a sin to think or say hurtful and mean things about someone in your head when you're angry, but you keep silent and do not utter those hurtful or mean things to anyone and you restrain your anger? Will Allah punish us for our thoughts? Sometimes I get angry and have to express my anger in my head, but I do not say the hurtful things that that I say in my head to anyone and I always feel remorseful for saying those things in my head after I am not angry anymore.

Adaab. I often listen that Islam has an intensely negative perception towards cultural diversity especially towards those religions don't have a particular book, or have a polytheistic culture, or practices idolatry festivals. But is this true? or it tells about peace and tolerance? Which one is true? Personally I have seen in social media that many many Muslims harshly criticise the 'other' cultures, and especially when Muslim people/ people with Arabic names actively engage in peace and communal harmony like attending or helping in the festivals of 'the other culture', some other Muslims start to aggressively hold them back or putting bad comments. My question is, does such intolerance or aggression supported by Islam? Edit: I totally acknowledge *islamophobia* or aggression towards Muslim ethnicity is another burning problem. This question is not for generalising any religion (islam or christian or any others) is more tolerant or less tolerant. My question is whether certain rude or aggressive act of a population of specific individuals are permissible/promoted by islam or not. The question is less about Islam itself but _more about the individual engaging in vandalism or aggression over the 'other' cultures._ This include rude comments in social media or vandalizing sculptures etc. or any kind of aggression given that the 'other' culture did not incited any violence or aggression.

Sometimes my mom or dad say things to me or don't listen to me which hurts my feelings but I don't fight back because we are suppose to respect them. Today my mom displaced something that was mine so I went to tell her to tell me next time if she wants to move something but she wasn't listening and changed the subject. This made me angry and I returned to my room and told myself 'uff annoying mom' (nobody heard me though). I regret saying that immediately. Will Allah punish me? Another time my dad keeps laughing at me about how calm I am which makes everyone laugh at me. I always go into my room and cry because it affects my self-esteem. So I said 'ughhh why is dad so immature and stupid!' (nobody heard me). Will Allah punish me? I don't want to make distance between me and them because I love them. So how do I calm down and not get angry about them? How can I get over anger and sadness when they tell me something that affects me? Do I need to repent everytime I say something bad about them in private? Or do I need to make ghusl? Is there something else I need to do?

Selam alejkum. I wanted to ask something releated to my parents that concern me to much. I love my parents very much and i try to respect them in any way possible. I know that Quran and our prophet Muhamed a.s said that we should respect our parents in any way possible and I try to do that for the sake of Allah. My concern here is that whenever i make the most simple mistake possible such as letting the window open or even sometimes when i dont make any mistake at all they start yelling at me and become angry with me like its the end of of the world. Even when they yell at me that way,I dont argue with them at all despite that I feel very angry inside for them yelling at me. I fear allah and i wanted to know if made a sin behaving like this and if I have make a sin everytime my parents are yelling at me. I would really appriciate your answer with islamic arguments for this issue. Thanks again.

I often hear statements like: > "Anger is from Satan" And that one should perform wudu' to calm down from anger. I'd like to learn more about this practice therefore here my questions: Does this recommendation to perfrom wudu' has any basis in Islam? If that is true could you elaborate how and why this should work?

As I understand, God forbade Muslims from becoming angry at one another. So, can Allah become angry **at** a Muslim, even if the anger is not directed at but **for** the Muslim's situation? Shouldn't feeling anger only be an instinct from human nature that we try to overcome, and should not be a nature of God, as he determines our fate after death?

I have a cousin. Sometimes we both get angry at each other and I annoy him, which leads him to cursing me with vulgar words. Once we both cool down, I ask for forgiveness to Allah for both me and him. ***My question is: Is this my fault that he cursed?***

If there was a misunderstanding between the husband and wife and if the husband hits the wife in anger, can the wife hit back?

I am extremely upset about the whole situation. My husband had an extremely abusive childhood & real tough life throughout his 20-40's which actually made him very bitter & angry. I did my research and find that he has some mental disorder personality which has turned into more complications. There is so many arguments and much bitterness from him that I find it difficult to talk to him about issues on a daily basis as he starts judging me quickly. Every time I say anything to him, a fight starts between us and in this time all he says is: 'Talaq Talaq Talaq .......Talaq' or something like I divorce you about ten to twenty times. After he is cool, he comes back to me as if nothing happened, and apologises for his words. He is not religious at all, I just don't know how to deal with this situation. I have a child, and I don't want my baby to suffer cause of him. Can someone please advise me, is it already divorced? What should I do? I am too confused, just can't tell anyone.

In an argument with a non-practicing Muslim friend, I became irritated and asked him *Do you even believe?* (or something similar). I apologized immediately afterwards. Does this make me a disbeliever now? Today I remembered falsely calling someone a disbeliever makes you a disbeliever. What about the situation above?

New convert concerns: Am I still Muslim if a said bad words out of anger that I couldn't control when I had my menses? I really get it bad and the pain and mood swings. I blamed Eve for all woman being punished by it. I didn't mean it. And felt very bad after I said it I cried myself to sleeping asking forgiveness. But my husband says our nikah is broken now and I'm not Muslim anymore.

I’m a Muslim. I’m married to a man who converted to Islam before we got married. We have now been married for 11 years. In one of his mobile text messages to me, out of anger he said that he is not a Muslim. I have a few questions: 1. Does this immediately make him a non-Muslim? 2. If so, and he claimed he said it out of anger, what should he do? 3. What happens to our marriage if he is no longer a Muslim? Do I have to divorce him?

I believe "lust", "anger", "fear", "tension" and "ego" are main internal enemies of human. Does Islam provide a way to win over these enemies? If yes what is that way?

A letter was sent out to my wife stating that I give you talaaq thrice. 3 points I want to make: 1. I was not in a stable frame of mind, I suffer from depression. 2. It was in a moment of anger. 3. I did not personally send the letter and I had changed my mind. I signed the letter but did not post it out as I had no envelope, so I left the letter with someone who said they would get envelopes and post them out either later on or the next day. Within 24 hours, I had changed my mind, but it was too late they had already been sent out. My question is does this matter at all or does it not make a difference?

I and my husband are now living separately, and have been for about 4 months now. The reason we argued is because of his wrong doing, and he divorced me in front of both our parents. After a couple of weeks, he ask forgiveness and said that it was not his intention to talaq me. He only said that because he was angry. Now our problem is both our parents already consider the talaq was valid, and they don't even want us to be together again. How do we proceed from here?

I get angry towards my brothers or sometimes towards my sister or even on cousins for their behaviour with me. When they don't talk with me or when they don't care of my point of view or call me "baby" as I am the youngest child in the family (but my age is 30 now and I have one kid too). I get so much angry that I pray bad for them. This is also not good for me. How to handle anger towards siblings?