I prayed istikhara for marriage. Whether i should accept a marriage proposal or wait for someone who i have in mind, attracted to and really like (i don't speak and I'm not in contact with this person). I prayed istikhara for 3 days and on the fourth day a friend of mine told me that the parents of the guy who i like, were considering me for their son. Is that a sign that i should wait for this person?

Asalaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, About a month ago my wife requested a talaq from me due to pressure from her family and a month before that they instructed her to fetch her belongings from me and move in with them. After 2 months of no contact we started communicating and had intercourse after her visiting me. In the visit i could see that she still loved me and was still inlove with me as we discussed the reasons she left me. On another occasion due to the passing of a close friend I collected her and attended his funeral. Thereafter we had intercourse again, but with intention to reconcile. I have arranged 2 witnesses to draw up a document to revoke the talaq and take her back as myself and my wife agreed to reconcilation and I would rather take her back in all ways possible as I am afraid her family would try and find ways to keep us apart. **Is intercourse a way of taking her back?** Once I have taken her back with witnesses can her parents keep her away from me? She will not be present but she is aware of me revoking the talaaq, is that permissible? Shukraan in advance for your assistance.

Ibn Battal said: The scholars unanimously agreed that it is permissible for fathers to marry off their young daughters, even if they are still in the cradle - Umdat Al-Qari Sharh Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 14, Page 21 

I’ve been with my husband for 4 years and we have a 3 year old daughter together. I reverted to Islam last year, and my husband has never had a problem with it and continues encouraging me to continue praying and making dua. We’re both from catholic backgrounds but we were never really religious like that. My husband is not Muslim (inshallah one day he will be) he’s always been our provider and #1 support. Am I expected to leave him because he is not Muslim? I can’t find an answer anywhere for this situation.

This question is related to a very specific scenario for two people who wish to get married but cannot and need advice on certain paths. Context: I met this person over a year ago and we simply talked and discussed things professionally and would debate about islam, life and shared interests, everything seemed normal and there were no voice chats, sharing pictures or anything restricted within islam. We would just talk normally and discuss things, now as we continued talking we discovered very very specific and unusual statistical anomalies, such as specific coincidences, very similar backgrounds, appearing on text at the same time, doing the same thing, having similar life experiences, shared interests and many many anomalies that were too specific and perfectly timed to be a coincidence, now we started noticing this in the 2nd to 4th month and starting asking question on why they happened, again there was no attraction or any sort of discussion on being together or anything of that sort, then we decided we’d ask Allah and we prayed and wait for our exams to be over to properly assess the situation, as we moved on we started trying different ways to find answers. We’d ask some people or we would search on fatwas online on such scenarios or would as AI engines any literally every method we could think of, we came to a conclusion that we either are meant to achieve something together and learn a lesson or maybe Allah is guiding us together to a path much greater and to get married. So we decided that through istikhara we should look at a path to get married, this was a round to 7th or 8th month we came to the conclusion because the coincidence and anomalies were repeating and continuing to repeat so we decided to come to the that conclusion, we got very close through that period and would discuss about life and how we’d manage everything and confirmed if we were even compatible and could decide to be together, but the underlying issue itself was that neither of us could initiate a marriage proposal because both our parents are tight knit and cultured and would most definitely reject the idea, we decided on waiting but it turns out it would be very difficult as she is moving far far away and the waiting would exceed nearly 5-6 years if we waited out with our parents, and considering the rising difficulties and uncertainties the world brings it seems the more we wait the more difficult our situation is getting, so we came up with a three paths, We either wait the whole way risking that we distance completely and may not even have the chance due to the fact she has moved away, we wait till were both of legal age which is in a year and ask our parents, but neither of us would be financially stable enough to deal with that and our parents would most definitely say no due to cultural and societal pressures and talking to them would result in them isolating us which would again make us distance and miserable, the other path is that we wanted to get it done in secret and then legal in terms of government law with our parents but the issue is we are not sure whether that is islamically allowed or not and if the breaking morality by deceiving our parents would be allowed. Personally, her presence in my life has brought positive changes in, she has played a pivotal role in me changing to become a better person not just for myself but with my connection with Allah and Islam, I wish to be with her and I feel completely lost and alone without her as i find her as somebody to rely on after Allah and I cant trust anybody else due to personal reasons i cannot disclose. We're loyal to one another and we have never considered minor Zina either, we have had interactions but brief and not in any way inappropriate, Now, because of Ramadan, we decided to distance too and not talk at all to avoid ghafla and any sort of Haram, we're not in any sort of a relationship but just love each other and genuinely feel miserable without one another and cannot go without talking to one another however, we did not want to give way to any sort of Haram so we minimized talking and remain distant and professional.We help one another with studying and school, we give one another advice and act as counselors, we've never once argued, and our bond is very professional and healthy. Thank you for having the patience to read all this, Question: With the option we have all of them except one requires us to distance and distancing is extremely difficult even if we talk professionally it would just end up slowly turning back to the usual way we talk and we found out that the way we are talking and pursuing each other is considered not allowed in Islam but the circumstances are extremely difficult and the odds are stacked against us and it’d be way easier and way more motivating and generally less miserable to be able to talk freely because we rely on each other for support, care and love as our families and community are not as supportive. Which of the options should we choose and if not either of them what would you advise us to do?

There's a strong emphasis on a woman's wali (guardian) during marriage, and when selecting a husband. However, it seems the role of the wali disappears after she is married. In a sense, the husband becomes her guardian, but not in the sense that her husband becomes her "wali" (if I understand correctly). **Question**: What role does the wali (guardian) play after a woman is married?

Me and my fiancé are planning on having a nikah soon, but I have been researching the topic and my parents and family are all non-Muslim (I have converted to Islam after meeting my fiancé). But I need a Muslim wali with me when we do the nikah, so I was just wondering what I can do? And how can we have a ceremony after the nikah that my family can attend if they can not come to the nikah because they are not Muslim? I am very confused and I hope you can understand what I am trying to say, I would love for my parents, brothers, uncles and aunties to be there because it is a special day for us.

Can you marry a transgender woman or a woman with a male reproductive organ and if so does anal sex become permissible?

I'm ashamed to ask this, but my whole life, because of my acne, I haven't been attracted to girls or wanted to be with a woman. I'm asking this because I've really become disillusioned with women. Is it a sin to marry a beautiful transgender woman?

As salaamu alaikum. Me and my kids recently fled domestic violence and are extremely struggling. We have no support and no family around us. Im trying to move near my aunty who has found me work but cant financially afford the move due to being on benefits. Am I allowed any zakat help and if so, how can I get help? Jazakallah khair.

Apparently sheikh ibn utheymeen says its permissible to force ourselves on our wives and one brother even said I can grab her and do whatever against her will. Recently I see from another brother mentioning imam Shafi'i saying that forcing a women into things even if it doesn't harm her isn't allowed (which could be misread) in his book kitab Al-umm volume 6 I got shown a video that has no translation for non arabs who speak English and I also heard there is a difference of opinion if so which one is more authentic? (do not respond with emotion, respond with facts and evidence pls) Note: I would like to know all 4 madhab stances on my exact question as well

Marital rape consists of raping your spouse, i.e. having intercourse with your spouse despite a lack of consent. In modern law, marital rape is on par with extramarital rape in terms of legal consequences: the rapist will be punished, whether the victim was his spouse or not. This is not clear to me in sharia if the husband rapes the wife. One of her major duties according to the marital contract is sexual availability, and refusing to oblige is not only considered a major sin, it has the legal implication of [losing her right to maintenance by her husband](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/38759/17702) (the linked answer talks about leaving the house without permission, but on a fortiori grounds, this also holds about her refusing intercourse; this result is also explicitly mentioned in the section of which excerpts are cited in the linked answer). I can't find a definition of rape in fiqh sources, and the only mention of a punishment for rape in Reliance of the Traveler I can find is in o7.3 in the context of how far self-defense can go (not in the context of legal punishments): > As for when an aggressor is raping someone whom it is unlawful for him > to have sexual intercourse with, it is permissible to kill him > forthwith. Clearly this says nothing about marital rape since it is lawful for the husband to have sex with his wife. The [Hidayah](https://archive.org/stream/Hedaya_201703/Hedaya#page/n395/mode/2up/search/rape) only mentions marital rape in a footnote to a paragraph about maintenance of the wife; it says nothing about any consequences for the husband. [This answer](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/27526/17702) to a related question also says nothing about a legal punishment for the husband, or even any negative legal effects like owing her money. Thus my questions: - Which definitions of rape exist in fiqh? In particular, what is the relevance of consent? - Are there any criminal law consequences for a husband raping his wife that don't also exist for a husband causing bodily harm to his wife? (To explain the difference: is a husband who rapes his wife by beating her with an iron rod punished differently from a husband who beats his wife with an iron rod without also raping her?)

Before asking my question I need to explain what made me ask it: Often when in a Muslim community a new revert/convert (in the cases I witnessed always female) came. The Muslims always gave (her) the advice to get married with a practicing Muslim of the other gender. So what if for some reasons one of this future spouses only agrees for this marriage to make a good deed, so the intention isn't to get married in the obvious way, but to help the other to learn as quick as possible more about Islam and how to practice things according this religion. So the purpose of this marriage is creating a legal mahram contact where both could be together. Note that I've often encountered marriages where the husband needed somebody to care for him, these were arranged marriages were a younger lady married an old for example blind man to take care from him. Apparently such marriages were "Building a family" isn't the main goal seem accepted. I guess if somewhere deep inside the idea of a future divorce exists this could be considered as nikah al-muta' by some scholars. And therefore this condition might not be accepted for nikah. But I assume that it is possible to get married without the intention of being physical whether or or not this can be placed in a marriage contract can be discussed. Also verses of the Qur'an and the prophetic traditions rather invite us to get married and have children, which is excluded by this condition! - So can such a condition be valid? - In any case: **What kinds of conditions are not valid for 'aqd an-nikah**? (ruling?) - Assuming this condition is valid, what if the spouses later want to be together as real spouses and have children must they divorce or re-write the 'aqd, what is the correct solution? ---------- At least this fatwa (only available in Arabic so far islamqa #220804 ) seems to say that delaying to have children (or pregnancy) can be a valid condition. Even if the fatwa says that the husband should convince his future wife to have children, as this is recommended by shari'a.

I am a muslim male. When I was a child a person older than me had anal sex with me several times. When I was a teenager I had oral sex with one of my cousins. Does that make me a fornicator? According to Quran 24:3 A fornicator does not marry except a fornicator. How can I get married?

If a christian guy is married to a christian lady but process of divorce in action can he embrace islam and marry a muslim lady while finalizing his divorce from the Christian lady

I have two marriage contracts with the same person. The first marriage took place in a foreign country with a **lower amount of mehr**, and the second contract was executed in our home country with a **higher amount of mehr**. However, before finalizing the first contract, both parties agreed on the higher amount of haq mehr which is mentioned in the **second contract.** The first marriage contract in the foreign country was happened because the marriage court did not permit a higher amount of mehr; there is a maximum limitation on haq mehr in that foreign country. Both our families also live in foreign countries. We did this to simplify the visa transfer process from the bride's father to the groom. Additionally, at that time, both families could not travel to our home country for other reasons. As a result, the first marriage ceremony occurred in the foreign country, and eight months later, the second marriage took place in our home country. **From an Islamic perspective, I would like to clarify which marriage contract holds validity, whether it is the first or the second.** I agree to pay the amount of haq mehr mentioned in the second marriage.

Marrying is not a farz in Islam. What if someone chooses not to get married and keep fasting to control desire?

السلام علیکم I wanted to ask that does a women get punished if she doesn't want to get married because she is terrified of her "naseeb" or what her life will be like? I have met many married women (my mother, married sisters,cousins,friends, and aunts e.t.c) and almost all of their lives get ruined after marriage. Whether it is the physical, emotional, financial or sexual abuse or even attempted murder they face by their in-laws or husband's or how they become physically ill due to having children. Many women that I know have arthritis or chronic illness due to having children, and they still have to do all the housework and raise their children while being in constant pain. Many have said to me themselves that they regret marrying and are staying just for the kids. But those kids are then facing abuse by the hands of the parents (me and my sisters included). Due to this I have developed an immense fear of marriage and having children I know that getting married is a sunnah and that children are a blessing but I honestly do not want to get married because just the thought of facing any of these martial problems terrifies me. Many of my sisters and cousins that are staying in their marriages for their children are so frustrated and angry all the time that the children are being negatively impacted. As someone that had to face this kind of abuse from her parents I do not want to harm my future children like this, that is why I do not want to get married and have children. But my mother keeps telling me that as parents it is their farz to get their children married before dying and by refusing I am making it difficult for them to get in jannah, I know that it is important that we have faith in Allah but when it comes to marriage I just don't want to risk it? Does that make it difficult for me or my parents to get good deeds or get in jannah? Will I be making Allah angry by refusing to follow the sunnah?

Salam. I read in Tafsir Al Qurtubi that a man can marry off his slave according to majority of scholars (and this applies to both genders to Malik and Abu Hanifa RH, don't know about Imam Ahmad.) (https://quran.ksu.edu.sa/tafseer/qortobi/sura24-aya32.html) He says that Malik says it is not permissible if it is harmful to the slave. My question is- does this apply in the other madhabs, that it should be a suitable match etc etc.. or can a man marry off his slave, even to an untrustworthy and corrupt person? My confusion stems a lot here too- I read from Ibn al Mundhir al Shafi’i that a minor female can be betrothed by her father to another male **if it is a suitable match** (same with a male) without her/his consent being sought directly, so shouldn’t it be the same for slaves to be a suitable match, as it is somewhat a kind of guardianship.. (feed them from what you eat, shelter, etc..)? Thanks. Sorry if I went on too long. It is my first time using a site like this. I usually just stick to my curriculum and teacher

I'm in a relationship with a man of my age who is undergoing training in Armed forces. So he is not allowed to get married now. Because of my mother's insistence he had to go to army so that I don't have to face army and also he can get married to me. I want to get married as early as possible because I have felt satan and nafs are taking us and influencing us to wrongdoings. Both our families want us to get married when he gets permission which is in 4 years to come, and also want me to complete my mbbs and and another degree before marriage which is yet 5-6 years. Can we at least have marriage without their concern right now? Who will be my wali? If we get married we cannot expose it publicly because it is risky for his job. I want to get rid out of this sin and want to enter into a halal relation.