I am engaged but I am not sure if I want to get married to him. I heard that *Istikhara* cannot be preformed after a decision had been made: Is this true? Or can I still perform it and get guidance in making my decision?

Salam alekom guys , so as everyone knows the salah is 2 rakkat and we recite the dua after sallah. The question is , I have a hard time reading in Arabic and I’ve been doing my dua in English but then I knew that it’s only for the people that don’t know Arabic at all . I do know Arabic but have a very hard time in reading it , so it is acceptable if I could still read it in English?

Assalamwalaikum. I met a guy, and we have known each other for 5 months now. It felt like an instant connection, we clicked. We really wanted to marry and spend our lives together. We both felt right for each other. I was attracted to him both in terms of his appearance, as well as his character and deen. We decided on praying istekhara. The istekhara only made my belief stronger about marrying him, i really want to spend my days here and the hereafter with him. But his istekhara resulted differently. Removing me from his life, puts him at more ease, and as a consequence, he ended things with me. He is divorced, and he thinks that the stigma of that will put him at a place, where he moved on from with great difficulty. He doesn't want my parents or anyone to tarnish his character. I respect his decision, but i really want to have a content married life with him inshallah, that's what i feel. But then i also think, that maybe his istekhara resulted in this because it may not be the right time for us, Allah knows best. I have requested him to continue praying istekhara, and i will too. Although i really make dua to Allah swt, that he brings him back into my life. Is that wrong of me to do? Does that mean I'm questioning Allah's qadr?

Folks, I have three choices & I need to pick one for a professional life. So how do I utilize Istikharah to pick the best one & move forward? & at the same give sincere devotion after picking the right one & not giving thoughts in other two fields.

I am a Mexican Christian woman in love with a Kuwaiti Muslim man 10 years younger, both of us living in the US. Many things are against us but we love each other, so we are very confused. We dated for 2 years and lived together in the US, sharing all responsibilities and rights of marriage including intercourse. This was the first time I have ever done this, for I come from a religious (Christian) family. He asked me to marry him, but had to agree to have a Muslim marriage, our children raised Muslim; plus, consider converting to Islam. I immensely admire and respect his love for Allah (SWT), but he does many things Muslim men should not do… So, I agreed to marriage, if he showed me how to understand and love Allah (SWT) for myself not only for the marriage; and, to show me by example… With this agreement he stopped drinking, partying, and smoking; we stopped intercourse, I began attending the mosque and learning and asking questions to him and the imam… But within a month he returned to partying even more than before, he wasn't being loving and left me alone in the quest for Islam. I broke our relationship off… 6 months with little contact between us we were reunited by chance, he approached me and started pursuing me again, he has asked me to be his girlfriend again claiming he loves me, and that he has felt lost without me… But, while we were apart he prayed SalaT Al-Istikhara for marrying me, and said his answer was NO, and that his family and shirk in Kuwait said NO too! I see how this could happen, and how we could be not doing anything wrong at the same time… I am a non-Muslim but I am a person of the book and well behaved and are very modest for us standards; I am 10 years older than him but so was Khadijah; and our love was not born out of instant lust but out of a good friendship, trust, companionship, support, and a very good connection with each other. Now, I love him as a husband, my intention is being with him as as a wife… I know that despite all, Allah's (SWT) will is unknown, sometimes misunderstood because we have our own expectations, and we don't understand the final goal … NOW MY QUESTION IS HOW TO INTERPRET ISTIKHARAH IN HIS SITUATION?? He is very confused, and I am too, I don't want to hurt either one of us… I have heard various ways in which you can receive an answer for Istikharah about what Allah (SWT) wills… Which one is best?!?! How does it work??? 1) In dreams: if you dream something white or green, or black it means different things…He didn't dream anything! 2) Getting the right feelings in the heart about one of the options right after performing the supplication… He performed it the first time and his answer was No… 3) Him or her will pray and the guidance will come to him felt in the heart rather than felt in any senses… 4)I have heard both that you have to listen to your elders and family, because they know you and Allah (SWT); and that you should not listen to them because they aren't feeling your connection to Allah (SWT) and it is through connection and trust in Allah(SWT) that you get your answer, no one else can hear his will for you… 5) Allah's (SWT) will make one option easier than the other. And, in this case things have been going very easy and well for us, which makes both of us very confused… HELP!!!

Salam, Can Salat el isstikhara help me to understand and to answer questions related to my professional life ? For example, I do not find my place, I am 33 years old and still did not find the meaning of my life, what I want to do, which job is fiting me, what I can provide to siciety and be paid for my services. I am reading about ikigai for example, well, It can be good to keep positive thinking and optimism, but I wonder if Isstikhara is meant to be for my situation.

A.O.A I met a guy before 7 months and i really like him he also likes me so we want to marry each other. So for that purpose we asked a moulvi to do istekhara for us n he told us that your istakara came negative. But we want to do nikkah and we are very serious for each other plz trll me is there anyway so that Allah will also agree with our marriage and the result will be positive. And what if i ignore the negative sign of istekhara and pray again of our marriage in front of Allah? Plz help me i m really confused and tensed and i dont want to leave him and we are not doing anything wrong we just want to do nikkah and to spend life with eachother.

I have been interested in a girl I met in my university. I wanted to ask for her hand in marriage but she told me she was already engaged to someone from her family (although she was interested in me but the family had already decided it for her through istikhara and she doesn't want to disappoint them). Over 3 years have passed but we still remain interested in each other, and for some reason or the other she couldn't get married to his fiance either due to some accident or financial problems or no holidays from job, as well as the fiance's reluctance to marry "so early" as he mentioned at the start to her. I have been making dua to Allah for blessing me with her, and I've always felt agitated of what might happen if she would get married how would I live with myself etc. I cannot do anything however unless she asks her parents to talk to me, which she is scared to do because of her family and also because when her family did istikhara for the current fiance it seemed positive, even though every time some barrier appears between them in marriage. I decided to do an istikhara myself on whether I should keep making dua for her hand in marriage, and since I am helpless in this matter right now that's all I can do for now. After a few days, the agitation I had of losing her went away, but I still am inclined to make dua for marrying her and in my heart feel that she will contact me soon IA if I keep making dua. I still have 2 days left of my 7 in istikhara, but I am unsure whether this is a positive sign or a negative sign for me to pursue for her marriage. I feel relatively calm and keep making dua for her hand but at the same time feel what if it's a negative sign and I might be wrong in making dua?

Assalamu aleykum I had relationship with a boy for nearly 2 years. We chose each other for our deen and planned to get married. Alhamdulilah our parents accepted. Within our relationship we had misunderstandings and conflicts but I was always the one who used to apologize first. Finally he decided to pray istikhara, he prayed for 7 days and he told me the result he felt was negative and he decided break-up with me. I was so unhappy heart broken and told him to not leave me Allah will give us the best I did everything but he is saying his istikhara was negative and he will not disobey Allah for the feeling he showed. Please advise on what I can do. I pray every night salatul leyl and make dua.

Assalamalaikum. Am a Christian and from a very strict and religious Christian family, I love this guy and he began to teach me things about Islam and I fell in love with Islam. We both would want to get married but my family and his are not in support of it. I want to revert to Islam, but don't want it to be because I love him. I also don't want to hurt my family mostly my mom. We've done things that are wrong in Islam and decided to stop. He loves another Muslim sister and it scares me a lot I feel am loosing him already. He said he would like to perform Istikhara so as to do the will of Allah. Now my question is can I also perform Istikhara despite I not being reverted to Islam yet. If yes how should I go about it. Wa-Salam

Based on my researches, in the Urf (custom or tradition of the society), Istikhara often/always is done once for everything. Some days ago, a friend of mine did a Istikhara for doing something (to take trip to a specific country), and the result of Istikhara was bad/negative for his travel. Some days later -- after his negative Istikhara -- he decided to do another Istikhara (in order to have [perhaps] a positive result of Istikhara to allow him to take trip!). It seems he insist on this travel and as if he want to do his another chance by Istikhara (!) to take the consent of Allah for travelling! But, my 2 questions are: **Is it permissible/halal to do a/the second Istikhara in sth whose first result of Istikhara was negative? (In order to get a positive result?)** **What will happen if somebody do against Istikhata's result?** ---- **Note**: Both Shia and Sunni viewpoint would be appreciated.

I am not good at learning and speaking Arabic and few matters has arisen in life, where I need guidance from Allah. Is it possible to do istakhara in English or just listen to the dua for istakhara? If so what is the right way?

What is the correct way of doing istikharah? I have found a lot of different methods online but not sure which one is authenticated.

Does istikharah still work if someone reads the istikharah without doing salah? For example, if someone is sitting on their office desk or if they are reading it before bed. Or does istikharah only work when we do it in salah?

I am currently dealing with several issues and I have always had faith in Allah that He will choose the best option for me. But, I wanted to learn about Istikhara. What does Istikhara really tell? Does it tell us about the future or what to do in the future? I am quite unclear on that. I want to know if the decisions I am making will end up the way I want and also, the wishes I have; will they be fulfilled? Also, what is the right way to perform Istikhara. Kindly answer with concrete citations from the Holy Quran.

Assalaamualaikum, I wanted some advice on isthikarah for marriage for myself. If the womans isthikarah is a positive feeling but the man had a dream which was negative and in the dream the woman was marrying someone else what does this mean? What if the man and woman still want to marry is this a sin and going aganst the guidance if they decide to marry? The man and woman both have sihr to block things and stop marriage so could this dream be because of sihr? Also can isthikarah results change over time, for example from negative to positive in the future? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Jazakhallah for your time

I hope to gain some insight into istikhara signs after dua. I made an istikhara last night on something this morning something happened to make my goals for the thing I prayed iatikhara for easier. Can one interpret that as a positive sign?

I prayed istikhara for marriage. Whether i should accept a marriage proposal or wait for someone who i have in mind, attracted to and really like (i don't speak and I'm not in contact with this person). I prayed istikhara for 3 days and on the fourth day a friend of mine told me that the parents of the guy who i like, were considering me for their son. Is that a sign that i should wait for this person?

After my first attempt at istikharah , I feel like it perhaps didn't go how it's meant to. Basically, this is what happened: 1. I tried to perform istikharah (but I did it quite clumsily). 2. I asked a good Muslim man if he'd be interested in marriage. 3. He basically said no (although he was rather nice about it). **Question**: Is this how istikharah is meant to work? I certainly got an answer to my question, and it allows me to move on without uncertainty. Indeed, part of the dua is: > But if in Your Knowledge, this matter be bad for my faith (Deen), for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then turn it away from me, and turn me away therefrom. So I literally asked Allah for this (and trust Allah will help me find something better suited in the future). Indeed, I like the style of asking about marriage early, before there's significant investment in the relationship. But there weren't any dreams involved, nor anything apparently supernatural. It seemed very direct.

I'm a 28yr old Sunni man. I am wondering if I can do istikhara for marrying (or not marrying) a girl from a particular country.