Hi everyone this is going to be a long read to please bear with me I try to make it as short as possible. I am a muslim girl from a household of 7 siblings my dad has 2 wifes my mom and then I have a step-mother and 2 step-siblings. My mom is British so I have always enjoyed the British culture and have been in the UK for nearly 10 years but before my dad worked in Saudi Arabia, and that's where it all started. My own brother sexually abused me for a duration of 5/6 years it started when I was 7. He use to buy me things like phones, take me out and buy cloths etc and do stuff to me in exchange, he never went in but always tried to put stuff etc in my behind and forced me to watch inappropriate content. I never liked it, I never wanted it but I was young and my family was never close, my mom and dad didnt really care about me or tought me anything or the whole family, no one is close, no one cares about each other. I had no support to tell anyone and never felt safe. It came out last year and no one believed me, not even my mom which is what hurts the most. I want her to not speak to him, or forgive him, or call or have any association with my brother because of what he did to me. My mom is old and doesnt know half the time what day it is. I tried to forgive her because after my sisters visted me and I told the full story they believed me but I didnt want to have to say it all for someone to believe me. They convinced my mom but its not genuine why didnt she believe me when I told her. My dad also found out but didnt call me, or didnt call my husband (who already knew), didn't message or visit me which also makes me so angry. My mom says she believes me but I dont actually think she does, when I visit her its so fake she thinks it's all gone away but doesn't want to talk about the actual subject, my brother, who abused me, used to live with us at my mom's house and I hate visiting because it triggers me. I went a while ago and when I left i cried my eyes out to my husband, i am just to angry and hate the house and my mom why didnt she believe me why is she still talking to him I just dont know what to do. Best case scenario I want her to talk to me about it and tell me she believes me and I want her to cut ties with that monster. But I know she wont do that as 'it her son' but I just dont know how to handle this. My husband has been through this with me and if it wasnt for his support, I dont know what i would be doing. He is very understanding, this issue has effected our relationship and it hard at the moment. Any advice would be really appreciated.

In cases of sexual assault against women, the victim might be asked questions like *what was she wearing?* leading to the implication that she was somehow "asking for it" (i.e. provoking her attacker) if she was wearing a certain style of clothing, thereby giving the perpetrator a mitigating factor. It's a form of victim blaming : > A typical expression of victim blaming is the "asking for it" idiom, e.g. "she was asking for it" said of a victim of violence or sexual assault. I'm wondering what would happen in a sexual assault case brought to a sharia court where the female victim was wearing hijab. **Question**: Are women in hijab assumed not to be "asking for it" in sexual assault cases? It's possible the sharia could interpret hijab as an unequivocal expression that she is not "asking for it".

Do the narrations below suggest blood money is due for marital rape as a ruling? They are derived from musanaf ibn abi shaybah 186- الرَّجُلُ يَسْتَكْرِهُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَيُفْضِيهَا. 28475- حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ ، عَن دَاوُد ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ شُعَيْبٍ ؛ أَنَّ رَجُلاً اسْتَكْرَهَ امْرَأَةً فَأَفْضَاهَا ، فَضَرَبَهُ عُمَرُ الْحَدَّ ، وَغَرَّمَهُ ثُلُثَ دِيَتِهَا. 28476- حَدَّثَنَا زَيْدُ بْنُ الْحُبَابِ ، عَن خَالِدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ ، عَن خَالِدٍ الْحَذَّاءِ ، عَنْ أَبَانَ بْنِ عُثْمَانَ ؛ أَنَّهُ رُفِعَ إِلَيْهِ رَجُلٌ تَزَوَّجَ جَارِيَةً فَأَفْضَاهَا ، فَقَالَ فِيهَا هُوَ وَعُمَرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ : إِنْ كَانَتْ مِمَّنْ يُجَامَعُ مِثْلُهَا فَلاَ شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ ، وَإِنْ كَانَتْ مِمَّنْ لاَ يُجَامَعُ مِثْلُهَا ، فَعَلَيْهِ ثُلُثُ الدِّيَةِ. 28477- حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ ، عَن شَيْخٍ ، عَنْ قَتَادَةَ ، عَن زَيْدِ بْنِ ثَابِتٍ ؛ فِي الرَّجُلِ يُفضِي الْمَرْأَةَ ، قَالَ : إِذَا أَمْسَكَ أَحَدُهُمَا عَنِ الآخَرِ فَالثُّلُثُ ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يُمْسِكْ فَالدِّيَةُ.

Marital rape consists of raping your spouse, i.e. having intercourse with your spouse despite a lack of consent. In modern law, marital rape is on par with extramarital rape in terms of legal consequences: the rapist will be punished, whether the victim was his spouse or not. This is not clear to me in sharia if the husband rapes the wife. One of her major duties according to the marital contract is sexual availability, and refusing to oblige is not only considered a major sin, it has the legal implication of [losing her right to maintenance by her husband](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/38759/17702) (the linked answer talks about leaving the house without permission, but on a fortiori grounds, this also holds about her refusing intercourse; this result is also explicitly mentioned in the section of which excerpts are cited in the linked answer). I can't find a definition of rape in fiqh sources, and the only mention of a punishment for rape in Reliance of the Traveler I can find is in o7.3 in the context of how far self-defense can go (not in the context of legal punishments): > As for when an aggressor is raping someone whom it is unlawful for him > to have sexual intercourse with, it is permissible to kill him > forthwith. Clearly this says nothing about marital rape since it is lawful for the husband to have sex with his wife. The [Hidayah](https://archive.org/stream/Hedaya_201703/Hedaya#page/n395/mode/2up/search/rape) only mentions marital rape in a footnote to a paragraph about maintenance of the wife; it says nothing about any consequences for the husband. [This answer](https://islam.stackexchange.com/a/27526/17702) to a related question also says nothing about a legal punishment for the husband, or even any negative legal effects like owing her money. Thus my questions: - Which definitions of rape exist in fiqh? In particular, what is the relevance of consent? - Are there any criminal law consequences for a husband raping his wife that don't also exist for a husband causing bodily harm to his wife? (To explain the difference: is a husband who rapes his wife by beating her with an iron rod punished differently from a husband who beats his wife with an iron rod without also raping her?)

I was wondering if the punishment for rape is stoning. This includes the situations where the rapist or rape victim is married or not (meaning if the rape is also an act of adultery or just fornication the punishment would be the same). I was looking at Sunan Abi Dawud 4379. The Hadith is graded as Hasan, but according to Al-bani it only qualifies as Hasan if you remove any mention of stoning from the Hadith. But there is another version of the same hadith that is graded as Hasan even with the inclusion of stoning [Jami at-Tirmidhi 1454]. So do these hadiths indicate that stoning is the punishment for rape [any kind of rape]. Sunan Abi Dawud 4379: https://sunnah.com/abudawud:4379 Jami at-Tirmidhi 1454: https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:1454

Salamualaikum. Let me first clear the air by saying I'm in no way shape or form supporting rape, but all I want is clarification. My question is if an inappropriately dressed woman goes out late in the night for no reasonable purpose and gets raped, doesn't she share a part of the blame, however small, for tempting the rapist? Remember, not only did she dress inappropriately, she also went out late in the night for no good reason. This question is as a result of the fact that many women even Muslim women want to hide under the cover of "**the victim is never at fault**" and dress inappropriately. I'm not even in support of this mantra because in **some cases** I believe the victim takes a part of the blame. I know Islam doesn't support rape but it also frowns at indecent dressing from both men and women!

I am a woman in my twenties. I was raped. Since he is an influential person i couldn’t get justice. Now i am pregnant with his child. I want to abort it. I don’t want to bear a rapists child in my womb. Is it permissible?

Salam everyone, Are there some conditions to marry a raped woman who aborted twice ? She was still a child, and both were in the first month pregnancy. Also are there some stories in the Quran, or Sunnah about raped woman ? Thank you for your attention

I was reading this post . I have a few question about it's contents, >A woman can imprisoned for admitting to pre-marital sex, because proving that a rape happened is next to impossible in Dubai, where four male Muslim witnesses are required. If a woman admits to being raped, and the rape cannot be proven by the legal system, the man or men walks free. If a woman tells she was raped and is not able to prove it, does it mean she engaged in pre-martial sex and will be punished for it? The answer says this, >If you're looking for the reason why this is the case even when they've been raped, it's because Islamic law, specifically, Sharia law, states that this is the punishment for engaging in pre-marital sex. As far as I know, this is definitely not the Islamic law. Islam would never punish an innocent. Can someone comment on this please.

I stumbled upon another anti-Islam site, billionbibles.org. They have an article on Taharrush Gamea which they define as *the coordinated sexual attack of a girl or a woman in public by a mass of Muslim men.* Their definition implies that "taharrush gamea" has something to do with Islam. I had never heard of this before. I'm skeptical about this, as it contradicts numerous Islamic rules (e.g. Qur'an 24:30 writes: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them."). I'm seeking to check what "taharrush gamea" actually is, and its relevance to Islam (if any). **Question**: What is "taharrush gamea" and is it part of Islam? --- *Edit*: Google Trends demonstrates the the phrase "Taharrush Gamea" is a new concept: It shows the search term "Taharrush Gamea" became popular around January 10-16, 2016, and was unheard of before then (Google Trends has data from 2004). This coincides with the creation of the Wikipedia page Mass sexual assault in Egypt (original version ); its earliest references are news reports from 10 Jan 2016 (e.g. Die Welt , Breitbart ).

In Islam, it is the husband's right to have sex with his wife whenever he desires, as long as she is not menstruating, she is in good health and neither of them are fasting. According to Islam, is it permissible for the husband to *force himself* on his wife (bed his wife without her permission or when she is not willing) even if she is in good health?

I have been trying to understand why people in the West who are Muslim say that it's rape no matter if penetration has occurred or not. If she says stop in the middle and he doesn't they say it's rape? According to Islam, if a man and women consent to sexual intercourse, they are both intoxicated and they are not married and she changes her mind in the middle of the act, is this rape? It has always been my understanding through Islam that it is zina and not rape because the actual penetration is already taking place.

I am a muslim girl, al hamdulilah convinced but always trying to love more my religion by knowing more, it can honestly get a little bit because I live in spain but i really try my best. So, when it comes to religion my references are quraan, books, the internet and of course my mother. so we were talking about girls who got raped, and she basically said that she'd probably *rather for the girl to be dead than raped.* She is my mother, with all respect , I said: would you rather see me dead than raped? she just didn't answer. **I want to know what islam thinks about a girl being raped. Everything, from how she should be treated from where she should stands on the eyes of people.** I am really overwhelmed with this, I do not know what to answer her because she is my mother. Also I must clarify that she is an educated woman, she went to college, but she was raised in a very very conservative family in which woman had no right to say 'NO', so i think that tradition rule more than religion, something i try my best not to follow because I do not think it is correct. Please correct me if I am wrong. I want to be a better muslim and I seek knowledge. thank you very much for your time.

Sometimes I hear it claimed that rape is a cut-and-dry case of hirabah. Wikipedia lists [a few scholars who had this opinion](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hirabah#Rape) . All other scholars I'm aware of classify rape as *zina bil jabr*, literally "forced illegal intercourse". This is relevant from two perspectives: - the burden of proof for hirabah may be different than for zina (all scholars I'm aware of require the burden of proof for zina in rape cases, which is four witnesses or a confession; in contrast, at least Saudi Arabia is claimed to have a burden of proof of [two witnesses or a confession](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hirabah#In_modern_legal_systems) for hirabah) - the punishment for hirabah is different from the punishment for zina and coercion I've seen the nuance mentioned that it matters whether the rapist used a weapon or not. My questions in this regard are these: **Questions:** - which major scholars from which schools of law classified rape under hirabah? - does the use of a weapon matter for the classification of rape as either zina or hirabah?

I'm married and have 3 kids. My husband's behaviour was very bad with me always. Because of his lack of attention and irritating nature, I started talking with my colleague. I was talking to him only and didn't want to start any relationship with him. I was a girl with a very strong character. One day I went to his home and he started touching me, and he removed my clothes. I did not agree and was telling him no, but he did everything and I couldn't stop him. I was very upset as I don't want to do this kind of act. Still I'm talking to him but not in any sexual relationship between us now. Please tell me the solution. I cant sleep in nights and this sin is making me upset. I don't want to do this but he raped me. God knows what was his intentions, but I don't want to keep such relationships. I was also helping him by lending money; just that his talk would give me some courage. Please suggest what to do, it seems now that his intentions in the first place were to rape me.

I'm well aware that in the Islamic history there is a need of 4 witnesses for a rape to be proved. Has that happened before? How? I mean has there ever been a woman who claimed X has raped me and then the prophet said are there witnesses and then 4 witnessed were gathered and then the man got punished? Additionally has there ever been any incident where an alleged rapist got punished regardless of the number of witnesses (e.g. no witnesses were found or there was only 1 witness)? If so when? Why? I'm only interested from the time of the prophet Muhammad until the end of Ali's government

I recently argued with a fellow peer on why Islam is a religion of peace. However, he brought up the fact that Muslims are allowed to rape female slaves, and how the Prophet (peace be upon him) allowed this. Everytime I bring up a new point, he sticks to this point and justifies it as the reason for why Islam is not peaceful. Can someone provide an argument against this?