In this cat and mouse type game (run away from the cat/killer, you are the mouse/survivor), I wanted to attract the killer's attention, so I used the word "noob!!!!!!" to attract it, later on I said I used such not as an insult, but to attract the attention of the killer (I do not know if the killer had already left by then or even saw these chats), am I sinful/is this haram?

Is it haram to tie a tiny knot around your finger or wear a rubber band around your hand solely for the reason of trying to remember something constantly so that it becomes habit? For example: A man ties a tiny string around his finger to remember him to make dhikr, and after three days, takes it off, for it has become habit. Looking around, I have only found references to indicate that wearing ornaments such as these are normally haram to separate males from females. Would the practice of using an ornament as a memory helper be halal or haram?

My spouse's cousin who visits from other city, last time they visited my house, My spouse other family member played board games and cards which I did not like but my spouse assured me that she wouldn't play next time. As a head of house I am not comfortable my spouse playing board games, laughing loudly with a na mahram, initially when they use to visit my spouse never like him as well. Now that they visit us again, my spouse has been up all night or past midnight every night playing board games. I have been very stressed giving me sleepless night and annoyed because my spouse did the opposite of what I do not like What does Islam says about spouse engaging in activities that her husband has refrained from especially in this case where other is na marham and threaten to leave her when confronted by such talk? I know Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said to leave something that take away peace of heart, but I have kids with my spouse and I am afarid of breaking the family which will hurt our kids

From Shama'il Muhammadiyah, Book 18, Hadith 116 , we have: > Hazrat Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu says, "I did not see anyone more handsome as Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam. It was as if the brightness of the sun had shone from his auspicious face. **I did not see anyone walk faster than him, as if the earth folded for him.** A few moments ago he would be here, and then there. We found it difficult to keep pace when we walked with him, and he walked at his normal pace. It is not assigned a grade at sunnah.com. It reminds me of my earlier question which asks about Qur'an 31:17-19 : > O my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, [all] that is of the matters [requiring] determination. And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful. **And be moderate in your pace** and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys." This makes me suspicious of its authenticity. **Question**: Is this hadith authentic?

Salam is being sarcastic a form of lying? I was talking to my brother and he said something and I was like "oh sorry, my bad" in a sarcastic way, does that count as lying? And also when they know you are being sarcastic/joking is that okay?

I heard that whistling and clapping hands are haram. I am looking for a clarification and the reasoning behind it.

If someone is really shy or quiet they are easy to get picked on by others. So if someone or a bunch of people who belittes you constantly for their own sense of humour amongst their friends, or excludes you a lot, and therefore you end up saying all these things out of your own build up of frustration and anger through your whole life about them, and talking bad words behind their backs, does Allah still blame the victim for this especially if they have been picked on their entire life?

As the title says, what is the appropriate time to visit the graves of fellow Muslims? Or is there anything such as an appropriate time? Most men visit after Friday prayer. I ask so, because one day after Isha I wanted to visit the grave of my close relative. But it was dark and I felt I should not visit. It is at that time I had this question.

In Bengali culture, it is accustomed to give 'Shinni' (any food) to friends and family when one finishes recitation of whole Qur'an or when someone dies. Is there any Islamic reasoning behind this or it is wholly cultural, and if so is it bidah? **Question:** Is there any Islamic reasoning behind giving 'shinni' when someone completes recitation of the Qu'ran or when someone dies?

It's really not rational for me to do a thing while my mind does not believe it. What does Islam expect from me when it says something is **sin** but my mind does not believe that it's a sin? Does it expect from me to force myself? While I myself would like to try that sin to see the results because that sin is not harmful for anyone in my mind's idea so it's not a sin really. I believe forcing myself does not make any practical advantage for me and causes that I could not find out if it's really sin or not in whole of my life! what's the solution?

It seems severing ties of kinship (family) is a serious issue. From Sunnah.com : > 'Abdullah ibn 'Awfa reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said > > > Mercy does not descend on a people when there is someone among them who severs ties of kinship and from Islam Basics : > The person who breaks the ties of kinship will never enter Paradise. Islam Q&A even quotes al-Ra’d 13:26: > And those who break the Covenant of Allaah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allaah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allaah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell). **Question**: Is it still wrong to sever ties of kinship in the case of an abusive relative? I'm thinking either physical or psychological abuse towards oneself or one's other family members (e.g. children). Would Allah be okay with severing contact with them? The Islam Q&A page continues: > A man said to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.” (Reported by Muslim with commentary by al-Nawawi, 16/115). It's unclear to me what the Prophet means. It's also not quite addressing my question (although it does show Allah has some leniency), as this man is attempting to maintain ties of kinship, whereas I'm asking about severing ties of kinship as the result of abuse.

When being sarcastic, usually what is being said is opposite to the truth but in an expression or tone which can give away that one is being sarcastic. So is it considered forbidden and same as lying?

I live in China, where we have lots of Hui Muslims . The level of devoutness among this group of Muslims varies considerably, with many who are not all that up tight about following (or are even aware of) the prohibition on alcohol (see: Qur'an 2:219 ; 4:43 ; 5:90 ）. F. Yang and J. B. Tamney, *Confucianism and Spiritual Traditions in Modern China and Beyond*, 2012, p. 208, writes: > One of the most significant customs of the Chinese Muslims, including the Hui and other groups, is the taboo against eating pork. In the Koran, drinking alcohol is consdered a more serious sin than eating pork, **yet many Chinese Muslims drink alcohol** while remaining very sensitive about pork. Thus, it's possible I might end up in a situation in which a Muslim friend drinks alcohol in my presence. **Question**: If a Muslim friend started drinking alcohol in front of me, how can I appropriately react? I wouldn't know how to react appropriately in this situation. - I could condemn their actions, but this seems like an overreaction as it's not my decision to make. And it's hardly like I condemn non-Muslims for drinking alcohol. - I could ignore it totally, but this seems improper also.

Why shouldn't people swear? It's rational to say it is a bad thing when you hurt someone's feelings with your bad words, but if a person swears and no one cares, is it still haram to say 'f*** you' for example.

A friend of my whom I try to convert to Islam is reading the Qur'an and read this verse: > 'O you who have believed, do not enter the houses of the Prophet except when you are permitted for a meal, without awaiting its readiness. But when you are invited, then enter; and when you have eaten, disperse without seeking to remain for conversation. Indeed, that [behavior] was troubling the Prophet, and he is shy of [dismissing] you. But Allah is not shy of the truth. And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts. And it is not [conceivable or lawful] for you to harm the Messenger of Allah or to marry his wives after him, ever. Indeed, that would be in the sight of Allah an enormity.' (33:53 ) And asked me the question, why is this inside the Qur'an which is meant to be a gift for the whole mankind? Why is Allah dealing that much with stuff that prophet Mohammed (Peace be upon him) can deal himself also? Aren't there more important things to say for Allah to the whole mankind? He asked me this and I have no answer on this because also for me this verse looks like it makes no sense inside the Qur'an. So how do you explain this verse: why is it inside the holy and all-knowing Qur'an?

If I do kindness because I want God to give me rewards / presents , what kind of kindness is this ? . Is this kindness fake / not genuine ? Insincere kindness ?. Does God love humans who do fake / insincere kindness ?

Salaam alaikum Can anyone recommend good resources (books, videos, etc.) on being a good husband in Islam? Sunni sources only please.

> "A'isha, the worst of people are those who are feared on account of their bad language.'" قَالَ‏:‏ يَا عَائِشَةُ، إِنَّ مِنْ شَرِّ النَّاسِ مَنِ اتُّقِيَ لِفُحْشِهِ‏. Reference: https://sunnah.com/adab/16/6 In the Hadith above, does ‏اتُّقِيَ لِفُحْشِهِ‏. refer only to sexual bad words or any bad word in general (I.e. sh#t)? Also, what does مُتَفَحِّشًا mean as used in the following narrative? >The Prophet (ﷺ) never used bad language neither a "Fahish nor a Mutafahish. He used to say "The best amongst you are those who have the best manners and character." https://sunnah.com/bukhari/61/68

Why do some Muslims fold the top right of their prayer mats? I asked a few who said that we should either remove the prayer mats or fold a portion of it else Shayatin will pray on it!!! IMO (atleast) Iblees is aware of Allah and perhaps Iblees is more knowledgeable about Allah than many of the Muslims alive today. The other beings who do decide to pray on those mats may actually be believing jinns. So, what is the fiqh between the folding of mats? Or is it a bid'ah?

The 17-th item in Major Sins by Al-Dhahabi is *Arrogance, Pride, Conceit, Vanity And Haughtiness* (ref. ). He references the Qur'an and Sunnah, e.g.: > ...Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful. -- Qur'an 31:18 > > The Messenger (pbuh) said, "Arrogance is belittling to admit the truth and considering people inferior. [Reported by Muslim.] **Question**: Does telling people you have an academic credential amount to arrogance? More or less implicit in telling people you have an academic credential is a claim that one is "superior" at the relevant topic than the general population. For instance, someone with a PhD in medicine might be better than 99% of the population at medicine. But this is counter-balanced by the fact that people are better at some things than others.