Hiiii! I’m a 16 y/o girl and a couple of years ago I found out that gossiping/backbite was haram, to be honest I didn’t know about it before and sinned unknowingly but when I did find out I did my best to stop. Now my question is do I still have to tell the people that I have wronged about what I have said if they don’t know and that I did it unknowing that it was a sin? And is it different if i just gossiped about them or if i backbite them bc i have seen some people say that if you gossiped about someone and they don’t know, you shouldn’t tell them and with backbiting some people say you don’t have to tell them if they do not know while others recommend you to tell them. And there is some people that i genuinely don’t remember that I have backbit? What should i do and how should i repent? And I have heard that sins committed out of ignorance are pardoned but I saw somewhere that it wouldn’t take all the consequences from backbiting (I don’t think it applies to other sins but idk I’m not a scholar). And to give more context I have done my best to ask forgiveness for the backbiting I have done to those that I remember but there are 1 person I remember I have backbite/gossiped about though I did it out of anger and ignorance (we have made up without realizing/ apologized ) and frankly I don’t think she want to know speak with me since we both will soon start high school in different schools. If it helps I have sincerely regretted what I have done and have spoken good about her when people said something negative about her or when I talk about her in general, I’m not sure she will add me back since Snapchat is the only way I somewhat can contact her. What should I do

Post: Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah, I’m a student and our college farewell is coming up. I’m conflicted about attending for the following reasons: 1. The people in my class are mostly involved in backbiting and slander — I feel morally out of place. 2. I recently ended a haram relationship with a girl who will be there. I fear falling back into sin if I see her. 3. The event includes music, dancing, and free mixing. Girls dress inappropriately, and many friends talk indecently about them. I don’t want to be part of such a gathering. 4. I feel no benefit in attending and believe I will regret it. However, I know some friends might mock or feel bad if I don’t show up. My concern: Am I right Islamically to skip this event, even if others don’t like it? Please advise with Qur'an, Hadith, or scholarly opinion.

Assalamualaikum, recently, i have learned that backbiting is a major sin. I have doubts on it & some more issues added based on islam.Here they are: Doubt 1. If i backbit someone accidentally or intentionally, do i have to reach out to them even if it's awkward because they don't know me and they are out of my reach? Let me give you an example. My friend had talked about a neighbour living next to us- we both know him. She talked some things about him- though i wasnt sure she would talk bad things or so. Also, I had listened to her words so i bear the same sin as her but its unintentional and accident. What do i do? Also, even if jt is backbiting, Its awkward to seek forgiveness because he doesnt know us since we are strangers. He might get shocked and mom warned us not to talk or visit any strangers house, so it's not possible to ask forgiveness however. Am i forgiven if i just ask forgiveness from Allah?

Are you a hypocrite if you don't pray and if you backbite?

Asalam alaikum! Hope everyone is well today inshallah. So I live at a group home and I'm surround by gossip and backbiting all day am I supposed to correct other non Muslims about what there doing ???

I was angry at my family for some personal stuff going on and I talked bad about them with someone else. They don’t know but I said some horrible stuff like how they can die and go to hell. I apologized to them for being rude that day but I still feel bad for the other things I said behind their back. How can I repent for this

I was talking about my ex aunty to my friends I didn’t mention her name I just said ex aunty and now I regret talking about her and I don’t have any way to get back to her and ask for forgiveness but if I have a way I feel like if I ask for forgiveness she’ll be angrier what should I do?

Asalamualaikum, I am having really bad doubts if what i have done is backbiting or not. Recently, I have been thinking repeatedly if anything I am doing is backbiting. I got a tissue and was blowing my nose, some of the mucus went onto my finger. I then thought to lick my finger but I also thought that I would be backbiting on somebody while doing so. I then licked my finger anyway (I am pretty sure my intention was to backbite). After that, the person I was thinking if I was backbiting on them came. Please inform me if this would still be backbiting and I would have to apologise to them.

if backbiting is telling stuff behind the back that you cant speak on their face , what if you can speak whatever you want on their face because you are brave and bold. so does the sin of backbiting really apply on you ?

If i commit a major sin accidently do i have to repent? For example if i show my awrah when taking off my shirt am i sinful or what if i did a major sin that i did not know was a sin? If i backbite someone out of forgetfulness do i have to repent? What if someone i backbited said that it is okay if i backbite him out of forgetfulness do i still have to then repent? And is it haram to not lower my gaze if i donr look out of lust and desire? Thanks

I said about someone that I thought someone was related to him but I said a bad name linked towards him that some people used not understanding (at that point) it was bad . It’s a name in another language. But straight afterwards I realised I was saying something bad . Is this counted as backbiting ?

I met an celebrity lately, and found that he is a bad person, adulterer. Then someone asked me about him today, and I told him the truth. And also made aware some other girls about his bad intentions. A girl became aware about him after hearing it. But it made me thoughtful, whether should I told on his back about his bad characteristic, when it may help other. Or I shouldn't? What does Islam says regarding this. If it is not accepted in Islam then I'll repent to Allah, and try my best to stop this. So, should we talk about someone on his/her back to warn other if we are sure about his/her evil deeds?

I'm faced with a situation where I have to either lie or backbite. Which one is the lesser sin? This might help you in answering the question.

I know that in principle, backbiting is prohibited but I want to know of differences of opinion about what exactly is considered backbiting.

Is it okay to backbite someone with one's self? For example, if I become very angry with someone, then I go to my room and talk to myself things like "Why is he so stupid?". Backbiting normally happens when you slander someone in their absence **with others**. In this case, I don't slander the person in question with others but only with myself.

I want to repent from backbiting. Because now I regret for what I've done and I fear the punishments in the afterlife. I was teenager when I committed the sins. Now, I'm trying to apologize everyone whom I've wrong but some of them I can't contact them or I didn't remember that have I wronged them or not. I feel very bad :( What should I do and What can I do?

I sometimes get these thought in my head and I may start to try to think about something else will I be held accountable for this as long as i do not say it out loud

Verse 49:12 states this about backbiting: > Would one of you like to eat the flesh of **his** brother when dead? Since it does not state his or her, does this mean the amount of sin a women receives for backbiting is less than what a man receives? In many places in the Quran when it talks about punishment and what is permissible, it refers to both women and men. For example, this is verse 24:2: > As for **female and male** fornicators, give each of them one hundred lashes... Verse 48:6 is another example that refers to both men and women: > And [that] He may punish the hypocrite **men** and hypocrite **women**, and the polytheist **men** and polytheist **women**... There are also versus that specifically refer to women, such as 24:4: > Those who accuse chaste women ˹of adultery˺ and fail to produce four witnesses, give them eighty lashes each... Since the Quran refers to men and/or women in other places, is the Quran only referring to men in regards to how much is sin is meted for backbiting?

I read a Hadith where apparently the prophet said ‘cause me to live amongst the poor and cause me to die poor’, is this correct? Firstly who do we consider fitting into the category of poor is it beggars like you find in third world countries? I’m in the U.K. and there’s council Estates here where people are on welfare benefits but the government gives them enough to have their necessities. They are uneducated and without luxuries. Their young stay out in the streets involved in gangs while the adults spend all their time gossiping and backbiting others in the community - even people they don’t know. Are such people considers poor and in what way does Allah love them? If I was poor I wouldn’t spend my time gossiping about others because I have no life. However it seems poor communities love to do this as they are idle and struggling. Should we really be praying to live and die amongst people like this??!! On the other hand is Allah talking about the extremely poor who I don’t know hope they live. What’s special about the poor people that The prophet prayed to be like and Among them. If it’s they have more remembrance of Allah, then why do they spend all day long just inventing and gossiping, and even causing conflicts about other people in the community? Wasalam

Assalamu Alaikum, I have a question about what the view of Islam is on exposing the sins of others in order to humilate them and destroy their good image. Also, about cutting ties with immediate family - mother, father and siblings. There is a sin that I was exposed to by three of my older siblings at the age of three. The trauma of those experiences still sticks with me to this very day. I grew up witnessing every single one of my siblings commit this same sin continuously. It was something that I knew they all did - except one of them. I'd never seen him do it and had no evidence he had. He was one of the three that had exposed me to it at the age of three but ever since then, I hadn't seen him do it. I myself was not guilty of this sin...yet. I eventually fell into this same sin until it became something I did on a regular basis. Nobody knew I did this too. In fact, nobody would have ever guessed that someone who prays five times a day, recites and memorises Quran, is a straight A student, spends their spare time doing volunteer work and has not a single speck on their squeaky clean reputation would ever do such a thing. But every son of Adam sins I guess. I never told anyone I was guilty of this sin, I repented each time and prayed to Allah swt to rid me of it. I cried to Allah swt about it and begged him to help me out of my situation. Then, my sibling one day barged into my room, searched through my things right in front of me, never said a single word to me and left. He had found out that I was guilty of this sin - the exact same sin I'd witnessed every single one of my other siblings commit, except him of course. He never confronted me about it, advised me to stop or reminded me of Allah swt. No. Instead, he went behind my back and secretly told every single family member of ours about my sin and didn't stop until they all knew the details of what I'd done. Not a single one of them ever approached me to ask me what was going on, advise me or try to lovingly help me. None of it was about love of course. It was a way of making it known to every single person that this perfect person that had made them feel inadequate in comparison about their achievements/lives for so long, isn't actually all that perfect and this was excellent evidence to prove it. To tear down a good Muslim's name and reputation for no reason other than to feel better about themselves. To feel less pathetic and less inadequate. Once I had slowly began realising what he had done, because of the looks I started getting from family members, I became depressed and isolated. I couldn't face anyone because of the sheer humiliation of having my image and dignity torn to complete shreds like that. This was five years ago this summer, but since then I have developed severe depression, crippling anxiety and trust issues. I hardly leave the house, don't speak to a single family member except out of necessity and have lost a lot of friendships over the years because of my isolation. I cry myself to sleep most nights and usually fall asleep crying myself to sleep. I have lived in complete darkness, isolation, misery and loneliness for half a decade of my life because of what my family did to me. Not a single one of them feels remorseful over what happened then. They feel it was their right to do that to me. I guess knowing my inner most secrets and sins is something they felt was urgent public information. They didn't realise what it cost me. I tried killing myself not long after that happened and have failed to do so three times since then. My imaan went in the gutter because I just couldn't understand what I had done to deserve this kind of abuse, backbiting and humilation. What is so hilarious is that since what happened to me five years ago, I have literally witnessed with my own two eyes my father and my sister commit the exact same sin. My sister once went to my mother about me committing the same sin again that my brother had exposed me for and my mother stopped speaking to me. Then just TWO DAYS later I watched her do the exact same thing. She looked horrified when she realised I knew she was guilty of the exact same sin. I didn't say a thing to a single soul that day. None of the times I found out they were guilty of the same thing was intentional, I grew up basically walking in on these sorts of things. I've never really cared to go search for other people's faults. We live in the same house, I've seen all kinds of things I've never wanted to see but I always kept my mouth shut and looked the other way. The brother that exposed me has always been an incredibly secretive kind of person. He's always locked his door whenever he leaves it, even if he's just getting up to go to the bathroom. He always keeps the key on him as well. So I'm guessing he must have something to hide, but to be honest, I don't care and I'm not really interested in exposing his sins to get even. I just want out of all of this. My family have never been supportive of me, they've never cared about any kind of goal I pursue and turn their noses up whenever I achieve something, they've never congratulated me or helped me achieve anything. I've had to do a lot of things alone. The only thing they know how to do is backbite about me, slander me and humilate me. I guess it must stem from a deep sense of jealously and envy. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to better myself now but I can't do it in an environment so toxic and unbearable that I feel the only way out is suicide? Trust me, that's no a life anyone wants to live. I want to cut all ties with all of them and disappear. I don't want revenge, I just want out. I want to be free and I want to be safe from their tongues. I desperately just need peace, I haven't felt peace and true happiness in so, so long. What should I do and what does Islam have to say about a situation like mine?