Assalamwalaikum.
I met a guy, and we have known each other for 5 months now. It felt like an instant connection, we clicked. We really wanted to marry and spend our lives together. We both felt right for each other. I was attracted to him both in terms of his appearance, as well as his character and deen. We decided on praying istekhara. The istekhara only made my belief stronger about marrying him, i really want to spend my days here and the hereafter with him. But his istekhara resulted differently. Removing me from his life, puts him at more ease, and as a consequence, he ended things with me. He is divorced, and he thinks that the stigma of that will put him at a place, where he moved on from with great difficulty. He doesn't want my parents or anyone to tarnish his character.
I respect his decision, but i really want to have a content married life with him inshallah, that's what i feel. But then i also think, that maybe his istekhara resulted in this because it may not be the right time for us, Allah knows best.
I have requested him to continue praying istekhara, and i will too. Although i really make dua to Allah swt, that he brings him back into my life. Is that wrong of me to do? Does that mean I'm questioning Allah's qadr?
Asked by samiyah
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Feb 25, 2021, 06:51 AM
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