Romans 16:1 vs 1 Corinthians 14:34 - Position of Women in Congregation?

1 Corinthians 14:34,35 > Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to > speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to > inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; > for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church. Romans 16:1 > I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a **deacon** of the church in > Cenchreae. One verse states the role of a woman in the church is passive, submissive. The second states phoebe is a "deacon". 1 Timothy 3 implies a deacon is a male (with reference to the fact that he must have one wife). What do these three verses say about the position of Women in the congregation? Other references welcome. Biblical answers only, please.