What evidence is there that Jewish weddings staged a mock kidnapping of the bride?

Proponents of a rapture sometimes say that Jewish weddings staged a mock kidnapping of the bride, which is a symbol for the future rapture of the church. For example [another answer](https://christianity.stackexchange.com/a/16808/6071) quotes [Nancy Missler who writes](http://www.khouse.org/articles/2011/987) > The second part of the Jewish marriage was called the nissuin or the marriage ceremony itself. The groom often surprised his bride by his unexpected or early return. > >All Jewish brides were said to be “stolen, caught up, or snatched up by surprise.” The bride was then led to the groom’s house by a wedding procession of women carrying lighted lamps, similar to the Parable of the Ten Virgins This aspect of rapture theology would make a lot of sense if it were true. There would be a strong multi-stage parallel between the Jewish wedding custom and the history of the Church: - an initial betrothal - the departure of the groom for a time to build a house (John 14:2-3), while the bride prepares herself (Rev 19:7) - the surprise return of the groom who snatches away the bride for a short time - the public wedding ceremony and banquet with the families and community (many passages use a wedding banquet as a symbol for the afterlife) The surprise return of the groom is easy to see in, for example, the parable of the ten virgins/bridesmaids (Matt 25:1-13), but I'm sceptical of the staging of a mock kidnapping of the bride. I haven't seen rapture proponents give any reliable references to ancient Jewish sources describing such a custom. So is there evidence of such a custom? Or should I conclude that it was made up by rapture proponents?