In Calvinism, why does free will to accept salvation seem to take away from God's glory?

**Background:** We are unable to accept Christ without His work in us. God gives every man, life, faith, breath, and everything else needed to come to Him. > "And you hath he quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins; - Ephesians 2:1 > > "That at that time ye were without Christ, being aliens from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers from the covenants of promise, having no hope, and without God in the world: - Ephesians 2:12 **Question:** In Calvinism, it seems the belief that being able to accept or reject Jesus (for example, as could be argued from Matthew 13) [takes away from God's glory](http://www.proofthatgodexists.org/same2) because it becomes dependent on "us" - and makes salvation a works issue. ***What scriptures lead to this viewpoint?*** I am wondering if this is simply a [false dilemma fallacy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_dilemma) . Because I fail to see how it has to be either 1) forced on us, or else 2) we are "helping" God save us.