What to do when experience is different to teaching examples?

What does Buddhism say to do when a specific Buddhist teaching or example of a teaching, is in disagreement with lived experience? This is not about rejecting the whole way but maybe small parts based on lived experience not wants. (Example, Brother Phap says when we are strong we are more likely to hurt people and when suffering or hurt we are nice and sweet. In my experience, hurt people hurt people more so it seems false to me.) https://youtu.be/6P-NrCNUSJU