Can a Buddhist truthfully say, "You insulted / offended / angered / hurt me?"

I feel that in his [Ball Of Honey Discourse](http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/mn/mn.018.than.html) , the Buddha advised his followers to reflect within whenever they felt offended: and to identify the processes of their mind that caused perceptions or sensations to arise, which then led to anger. In the context of this teaching, can a Buddhist ever truthfully say, "By your wrong speech or wrong action, you have insulted / hurt / offended / angered me. You are responsible for this offence, and therefore, it is your responsibility to stop doing this thing that makes me offended, hurt etc.?" Please reply with references to recent gurus.